Friendship is one of the most valuable aspects of our lives. We turn to our friends for support and guidance. We spend time with our friends laughing, reminiscing, and planning new adventures. We ask friends for advice when we need the honest (and sometimes difficult) truth. We look to our friends when we need reassurance. Whatever the case may be, a friend cannot be a friend by themselves. In order to be a friend you must be willing to start and maintain a friendship. And that friend in return must do the same. Therefore, friendship is a two-way street.
In the past week I’ve been able to re-connect with five of my best high school friends (see the beautiful pictures below!) Despite the fact that we graduated high school three years ago, all went to different colleges, and have experienced life in all shapes, sizes, and varieties, we are still able to come together and catch up with each other. Sadly, due to time constraints, other “adult” responsibilities, and our varying semester schedules, we are only able to re-connect about twice a year (in a good year). Regardless, we still care for each other and still can laugh about ridiculous things together. We make sure that our own individual lives are headed in some sort of direction. We find ourselves reunited again over our future and what life has in store for us next. Since graduating we’ve had different pasts, but we are able to rekindle our friendship when we DO spend time together which I find irreplaceable.
Referring back to the whole “street” analogy: think back to when you have driven down a dead-end street. If you are an observant driver, you probably saw the “no outlet” sign warning you that the street would soon end. When you got to the end of the street, you probably had to try to find a driveway to turn around in. Or maybe you made a 7-point k-turn. Whatever the case may be, your drive would’ve been a lot easier if the street wasn’t a dead end. The same goes for a friendship. But in a friendship, there should never be any dead ends. Why? Because a friendship’s street should extend beyond what the eye can see. It should extend beyond a sign warning you that there’s “no outlet”. No matter if your friend lives two miles away from you or two-thousand miles away from you, this street shouldn’t end. The language of speaking or writing doesn’t change – you can still communicate to each other. Life may get hectic but in this current world you can easily send someone a quick text asking “hey, how’s your day going?”. The person might not be able to respond for a few hours but what’s the rush anyways? Eventually you’ll probably get a response.
Friendship is a two-way street because it takes two people to form a friendship. One must communicate to the other when they need guidance, reassurance or just someone to talk to. Not only does it take two people to form a friendship, but it also takes two people to maintain a friendship. Sometimes life gets in the way of constant communication with a friend. We may go days, months or even years without seeing a close friend. But we must all understand that even if life keeps friends physically apart from each other for days, months, or years, a true friendship can withstand days, months, and years of separation.
I myself must be reminded of this sometimes. And I hope you, the reader, are able to comprehend this too so that you can treasure your friends. May you always value the friendship that can last through the most brutal of storms. May you always rekindle old friendships and hold tight to new ones. May you be patient with the changing tides of life so that you can develop a closer bond with the ones you’ve learned to love. May you reach out to a friend in need and lend a shoulder to cry on in desperate times. May you realize that friendship, no matter how near or far, can withstand even the strongest winds. May you value your friends eternally so that you can learn to love yourself as much as you love your friends.